Our friend Barney is getting married. That’s hardly newsworthy — this is the wedding season, after all — except for one thing. Barney’s last name is Frank, he was the first gay congressman to talk openly about his sexuality. Now he’s the first to have a legal wedding.

We have known and loved Barney for a long time. He and Steve are from the same town in New Jersey, and it was Barney who recruited Steve to apply to Harvard and got him involved in student politics. We met at one of those political functions (Cokie was at Wellesley; our dorms were 12.5 miles apart) and Barney was an usher in our wedding in 1966. So it’s a special moment to celebrate his marriage almost 46 years later.

On a personal level, we’re thrilled Barney has found a devoted partner, Jim Ready. On a political level, we’re glad he lives in Massachusetts, one of only six states where gay marriage is legal. He and Jim have a right that all same-sex couples should enjoy, but we didn’t always believe that and neither did Barney.

A supremely practical politician, Barney once worried that gay marriage was reaching too far and expecting too much from the political system. But he changed and so did we. We came to understand that Barney, like many other gay friends, wanted the same things that straight couples were searching for: a hand to hold, a heart to share.