Shayne on You: Resolved, but not hopeful

Dear Maggie,

Every year itís the same thing. I make the same resolutions, (probably the same ones everyone does, lose weight, save money, work more, etc.) and then I break them before January is out. Is there something wrong with resolution-making? Why doesnít it work? Is there a way to give myself an edge this year that will make me more likely to succeed?


Resolved, but Not Hopeful

Dear Resolved,

I love, love, love New Yearís resolutions. Itís actually one of the oldest forms of folk magick, you know. Youíre stating what you want to do and be and have in the coming year, and by saying it out loud, or writing it down, you are creating it. Even if itís only a word or a thought, those are ďthingsĒ and you made them. And everything that exists today was once a word or thought or idea spoken or written down by someone else. So making the resolution is the first step in creating your new reality!

Okay, so why arenít they working?

I think a lot of people make resolution that involve an action that they believe will result in the outcome they want, when what they should be doing, is stating and focusing on the outcome.

For example, hereís a list of typical resolutions;

Quit smoking

Stick to my diet

Get more exercise

Now the person listed those things for a reason. Those are things she or he believe will make him or her healthier. So instead of listing the methods to get to the goal, just list the goal.

I will end 2008 healthier than when I began it. Every day Iíll do something positive for my health.

And now you have a much easier goal. If you donít smoke one day, do exercise the next day, eat wisely the day after that, then youíve done something each day to contribute to your good health, and youíre taking baby steps to get to the bigger goal.

By yearís end, if youíre consistent, you might very well have lost weight and quit smoking. But this way, whether youíve lost ten pounds or fifty, whether youíve quit nicotine entirely, or dropped from a pack a day to a pack a week, you have still succeeded. Best of all, you wonít feel like youíve failed the first time you slip up.

Deliberatel creations tend to fall into place more easily when we donít make them into a major job we have to do, or equate them with numerous actions we have to work our butts off to achieve them. They come more easily when we simply decided what it is we want, and then stop resisting it, relax, and let it in.

Good luck, and happy new year!


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