Whatís with all the momma drama? Canít we just all find common ground as mothers and get along?
I see arguments between mothers, day in and day out, all over the internet. The arguments about being a stay at home mom vs. a working mom or using disposable diapers vs. cloth diapers. The arguments even have further subdivision, once you take a closer look on each side. When did modern day motherhood get so confusing and overwhelming? What happened to women coming together and supporting each other? I feel like now that opinions can be quickly typed and shared online, with easy access for the world to see, the judgment and criticism towards each other are just free flowing. Iím obviously all for sharing ideas and opinion, but does it really need to be in rude and hurtful way?
Over the past ten years, Iíve been a working mom with one child, a stay at home mom with two children and now a stay at home/work from home mom with three children and some days a plus one. Iíve been a breast feeding mom, an exclusively pumping mom and a formula feeding mom. The only thing I will admit to never having tried is cloth diapering. Sorry Mother Nature, but the amount of laundry I do for five people is already overwhelming at times. Iíve been peed on, pooped on and yes even vomited on! Gross, I know. Even worse, when a child is puking your regular instincts tell you to run away from the puke, but as a mom you always seemed compelled to cup your hands to catch it. Less mess I guess! But the bottom line at each of these phrases, regardless of the situation is, I am a Mom.
As Iíve been sharing with you about my family these past three months, the response has been heartwarming. I really love my family and being able to share my experiences with others. Iíve been doing this in the hope that I can make a difference in our community, one family at time. I truly enjoy motherhood and all that goes along with it. Iíve been a student, a teacher and worked other varied jobs here and there when needed to support myself through each of my lifeís challenges. But my favorite job thus far has to be being a mother. It can be a tough job, but itís filled with such joy and reward, at the same time. Because of this, I try to be as supportive of other mothers as I can. I feel like most mothers, whether they are raising their children the way you would or not, deserve a helping hand instead of a judging pointed finger. Donít you feel more encouraged and better about yourself when you are receiving positive support, rather than being told you are doing something not Ďthe right wayí? Being supportive to other mothers is as simple as saying ĎHelloí to someone new at parent pick-up with a smile. Or telling the mother next to you, at sports practice, her child is doing great. Little conversations can be the start of something bigger. Or even if they stay little, five bucks says, your positive interaction at least made a bright spot in that motherís day.
When you get pregnant and sign up to join Team Mom, do you really know what you are getting into? Did any of us really in the beginning? Instead of fighting with each other over parenting issues and how we raise our children, I say, letís work together! Everyone on this earth has a special talent, skill, that one thing you are really great at. Share it! Hopefully, by reaching out to other mothers and sharing our ideas, we can work together, get the conversation started and have more positive, supportive interactions with each other. Now wouldnít that make our community a better place?
If youíre enjoying my columns on Friday, but want to read more and see what my family is up to during the week, please check out my Facebook page Ė ĎBaby Talk Ė with Rachelí. Once there you can find lots of great ideas and tips to share with your family and friends. Plus interact with other moms and parents in the community, by sharing your own stories and ideas.